The community does not shift by having any new conversation. Nothing will change if the new conversation is a discussion about better language, or if we work harder on analyzing or explaining the issue at hand. Studying, trying harder to understand, seeking better programs or tools – these have no power. They are only interesting. Without a conversation that has accountability into it, we may build relatedness and the room may become gentler, but the community and how it constructs itself do not shift.
Conversations that evoke accountability and commitment can best be produced through deciding to value questions more than answers, by choosing to put as much thought into questions as we have traditionally given to answers.
“Community: The Structure of Belonging” by Peter Block, page 102-103.
Every community has them. The question ‘people.’
I worry that our church communities have not been kind to these folks. I’m not meaning the simple questions that merely reinforce the status quo, but the big questions that make communities uncomfortable.
I remember hearing a story about a guy who asked why he couldn’t play drums in church, only to be labelled a ‘heretic.’
Even as a church leader myself, I have, often painfully, come to appreciate a good ol’ earth shattering question the facilitates my curiousity of something different that my experience failed to provide. It is uncomfortable. Questions that transform often are.
Be good to the question’ers’ within your community. They are important. They will invite you to explore new terrain.
What about you? Is your community good with those who question? Do you have a question to ask? What prevents you from asking it?